405-625-3513–Your Number for Freedom!
405-625-3513 We hope you’ll remember this toll free number. It’s the number to call when you decide that you are serious about doing something about your porn habit or seeking help for your sexual addiction. If you’ve become something you don’t like–it’s time to do something about it by calling this number! Read more
Was Eliot Spitzer a sex addict?
Another very powerful man has fallen from power into abject humiliation. For the past several days, as the headlines about Governor Eliot Spitzer continue to grab our attention, I have noticed any number of similarities between his life, my life, and the lives of those I know who suffer from sexual compulsions and addictions. Spitzer’s is being railed upon from almost every corner, and perhaps rightfully so, for his hypocrisy and immoral behavior. Stories involving sex grab headlines and the press has not disappointed us. However, unlike so many public figures and people in the press, I’m not going to be one to throw the first stone. Some of us have been there and we know the pain that comes when our lives suddenly crash about us. Is Eliot Spitzer a sexual addict? I believe so and I’ll give a few reasons why. Read more
Can we really change?
At some point in our lives, we need to ask ourselves a very important question: “Must I accept that I am whatever I am or is it possible for me to change?” Another way of asking this question is: “Can we really change who we are?”
I find that we don’t like to be pinned down with this question. The convenient answer is to say, “That depends.” Most of us accept the common opinion that there are some things in our lives that can be changed and others that cannot. But I see this answer as a convenient cop out that robs us of our ability to make choices for positive transformation. If we believe that change isn’t possible, we won’t try. If we believe that we can change, we will feel compelled to take action. As long as we allow ourselves to be confused about what can and cannot be changed in our lives, we’ll live dead-ended, stalemated lives where we wonder if the latest challenges we face is something that we should even invest our energies to change or not. Here is what we in the Purity Project believe: With God’s help, there is nothing in your life that cannot be changed; but, some things can be changed faster than others. Read more
It’s time for radical amputation!
Here is a statement that may seem radical to some, “It is going to take a miracle for you to be free of porn and sexual compulsions.” Several years ago I probably would have scoffed at anyone who said such a thing; but, after being caught in a serious porn addiction for more than 15 years, I believe I am more than qualified to vouch for the truth of that statement. Quitting porn is a three-way partnership between you, God, and people who are trained to help you. Though there are things you can do, you will not be able to do it all on your own. And other people can’t do it for you. So, how does this three way partnership work? The answer is very simple: We must do all that we can do for ourselves so that God can work his miracles in our lives. The first thing we should do is practice accountability. The next step is radical amputation. Read more
The Pornography User’s Big Blind Spot
I’m very fortunate. I work in a place that doesn’t require all of us to wear a suit and tie. Our code is that you should look nice, be presentable and feel comfortable. The other day I decided to go for it. I wore a nice shirt, tie, coat and slacks. No doubt about it, I looked great. Around noon I discovered something. I had been going from place to place and department to department with my zipper down! I could not help but wonder how many people had seen my predicament and decided to say nothing rather than embarrass me. The same is true about life. All of us have blind spots; the parts of our lives that others can see but we cannot–and some of it can be pretty darn embarrassing. When I was heavily involved in pornography, and all that goes with that affliction, I had a huge blind spot. I couldn’t see it, but those close to me could. Even today I am still coming to terms with just how blind I was. The blindness I am talking about is selfishness. Read more
