Assurance of Forgiveness
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1st John 1:9 (NIV)
Participation in sexual impurity is both sinful and unrighteous. It is not the life that God has in mind for us and it will block us from many of the blessings He has in mind for us. Yes, it is true that God blesses both the righteous and unrightesous for God is good even when we are not. But, there are additional blessings that belong to the righteous that we cannot have if we decide to disobey his will for us. Read more
Can we really change?
At some point in our lives, we need to ask ourselves a very important question: “Must I accept that I am whatever I am or is it possible for me to change?” Another way of asking this question is: “Can we really change who we are?”
I find that we don’t like to be pinned down with this question. The convenient answer is to say, “That depends.” Most of us accept the common opinion that there are some things in our lives that can be changed and others that cannot. But I see this answer as a convenient cop out that robs us of our ability to make choices for positive transformation. If we believe that change isn’t possible, we won’t try. If we believe that we can change, we will feel compelled to take action. As long as we allow ourselves to be confused about what can and cannot be changed in our lives, we’ll live dead-ended, stalemated lives where we wonder if the latest challenges we face is something that we should even invest our energies to change or not. Here is what we in the Purity Project believe: With God’s help, there is nothing in your life that cannot be changed; but, some things can be changed faster than others. Read more
Some worthy goals for the year
The new year is here; but, the question is, “Will it be new for you?” Will you decide to do something about the problems that you have been avoiding for so long? I know that I let my problems with sexual compulsions slide for many years. Fifteen of them went by in the blink of an eye before I finally realized that it wasn’t going to stop unless I did something for myself. For each of those fifteen years I kept thinking that I’d do something about my miserable problem with pornography. And I would do something about it and stop for a while. The problem was that I couldn’t stay stopped! But now a year and a half have passed and I’ve been free of something I thought might hold me prisoner for the rest of my life. If you want to be delivered from your sexual addictions, I’d like to propose some worthy goals for you and suggest some actions steps you might take. Read more
Where are you in the addictive process?
For those of us who suffer from sexual compulsions, we tend to feel isolated and alone. We do what we do in secret and don’t talk about it. We worry about being found out. We worry what is going to happen to us next. It remains our dirty little secret. What we would learn if we would begin to come forward and seek help is that sexual addiction is a highly researched area of study. Much is known about it and there are many places and organizations who want to help. You might be surprised how many are available in your community.
If you want to know what stage you may be in for your compulsive behavior no better description exists than the process outlined in the SA manual known as the white book. Those of us who have found ourselves in this addictive process can testify to its accuracy. If you resist the temptation to deny your problem, you can easily see where you are and where you are headed–if you don’t seek qualified help. The hope and prayer of the men of the Purity Project is that you ask us for help before you find yourself well along in this cycle. But, no matter where you are, we stand ready to help you. Read more
We are what we think about
In the wonderful classic, As a Man Thinketh, by James Allen, he states,
“A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all of his thoughts.”
It can be scary to think that, whatever we are today is the direct result of what we have been thinking about. Everything that we say or do is a result of some thought that we have allowed into our mind. Read more
