My Story by freeNChrist
Early Beginnings
The sexuality in my family is a little vague but I do know that there is some dysfunction at least two generations deep. My Grandmother on my fathers side had slept with various men while married and otherwise. She left my biological grandfather for my adopted grandfather and she eventually left him for other men. I know that my Father was sexually active before meeting my mother. I know that they did not intend to have me as quickly as they did, I was not purposed by my earthly father. My Father supposedly was having multiple affairs on my mother. I suspect my mother ran to the arms of a man before the divorce was final. After the divorce and while he was single, my father had multiple girlfriends and sexual partners. Two years later he was married only to be divorced fifteen years later. I believe and understand that extra marital affairs were involved in this break up. Dad has been bouncing from one woman to another ever since. He has had multiple sex partners and has threatened marriage a couple of times. I believe dad is first a love addict and next a sex addict, while mixing in drinking and drug use. Read more
Sex and the Assurance of Answered Prayer
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which trancends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)
People who have sexual addictions and compulsions, such as the constant viewing of internet pornography, do so for a reason. They have an inner pain yet to be faced. Rather than examine what’s hurting on the inside, they medicate with sexual pleasure and live in denial about what they are doing. The longer they do this the more pain they create for themselves as grief, shame and blame mount up. Christ wants to heal our inner condition and stop the cycle pain we keep inflicting upon ourselves. He wants to replace it with the peace of God. Read more
Do you want to quit pornography? Take this test
Instructions: Answer the first part of each of the questions below as honestly as you can with a yes or no answer. Write out any answers or explanations you may, if any, to the second part of each question.
- Are you ready to quit pornography for good; or, do you still enjoy your addiction to porno and find that some part of you wants to hang on to your addiction a little longer?
- Are you ready to do whatever it takes to be free of your sexual compulsions; or, do you have some conditions about what you are willing to do? Read more
Sexual Compulsions and Denial Pt. I
Show me a person who is addicted to internet pornography, or acts on sexual compulsions that they know they shouldn’t, and I’ll show you a person who is in denial. Denial is defined as
This post was written by teach4him--a member of the Purity Project in Oklahoma City. If you have questions or comments of a personal nature, you may reach him at teach4him@purityproject.comthe refusal to acknowledge the existence or severity of unpleasant external realities or internal thoughts and feelings.1 Read more
My Story by teach4him
For the past 15 years I have been a slave to internet pornography—pictures and videos. Before that time, I was not a more righteous person, I just didn’t want to be caught in public with pornographic materials or be seen publicly in places which were quite seedy back then. In other words, when the internet came about and I could have total privacy and I didn’t think anyone could possibly know what I was doing—the seeds of my secret desires began to grow.
During the time that I was doing all of this—I never felt right with God. How could I? I knew I wasn’t doing the right thing; and, I really didn’t want too do what I was doing; but,it seemed that I couldn’t stop myself. I would stay up late at night only to be shocked that it would be 2 in the morning. I became constantly sleep deprived. Read more
