Are you trying to hold a life raft under water?

When you have a secret in your life, it takes more energy than you might think to hide it. Someone once described it to me like trying to hold a life raft under water. Imagine the energy it would take to do that! We only have so much energy in our lives. We can either use our energy in positive ways or we can use it negatively. One of the negative, and most draining, ways we can use our energy is to maintain a double life. One of the first questions that Sexaholics Anonymous asks is: Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life? It only makes sense that it takes twice the energy to live a double life. To live this way we’ll spend great amounts of our personal power to maintain secrecy and hide things from ourselves and others. This drains us of the power that we need to solve our problems and live happy lives. The energy we spend to hide the negativity in our lives comes at a great cost. Are you you using your energies to keep up a double life of secrecy about your use of pornography or other improper sexual behaviors? Read more