Am I really that sick?
Last week a young man was sitting in my office. He’s a young college man, about 19 years of age and seems to have everything in the world going for him. He has exceptional good looks, great health, intelligence, and before long will have a college degree. So what’s wrong? He’s also addicted to porn and says that it’s been a problem for him for the past eight years. According to his story, he’s tried to break this habit on numerous occassions. He’s made numerous promises to God and himself, stopped cold turkey a number of times, and once talked with a youth pastor. Because he’s a religious guy, he feels miserable and believes that he’s let God down. I asked him if he’d ever thought about joining a support group. He replied, “I have, but I’m not sure I really belong, I don’t think I’m as sick as they are.” I think every person who has ever fought an addiction can relate to the statement of that young man. To us our addiction is more of a pesky problem than a serious illness of the soul. Denial keeps us from admitting we have a problem and doing what we need to do in order to get better. Read more
My Story by freeNChrist
Early Beginnings
The sexuality in my family is a little vague but I do know that there is some dysfunction at least two generations deep. My Grandmother on my fathers side had slept with various men while married and otherwise. She left my biological grandfather for my adopted grandfather and she eventually left him for other men. I know that my Father was sexually active before meeting my mother. I know that they did not intend to have me as quickly as they did, I was not purposed by my earthly father. My Father supposedly was having multiple affairs on my mother. I suspect my mother ran to the arms of a man before the divorce was final. After the divorce and while he was single, my father had multiple girlfriends and sexual partners. Two years later he was married only to be divorced fifteen years later. I believe and understand that extra marital affairs were involved in this break up. Dad has been bouncing from one woman to another ever since. He has had multiple sex partners and has threatened marriage a couple of times. I believe dad is first a love addict and next a sex addict, while mixing in drinking and drug use. Read more
Sexual Compulsions and Denial Pt. I
Show me a person who is addicted to internet pornography, or acts on sexual compulsions that they know they shouldn’t, and I’ll show you a person who is in denial. Denial is defined as
This post was written by teach4him--a member of the Purity Project in Oklahoma City. If you have questions or comments of a personal nature, you may reach him at teach4him@purityproject.comthe refusal to acknowledge the existence or severity of unpleasant external realities or internal thoughts and feelings.1 Read more
