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Crazy is doing the same harmful thing over and over. bit.ly/1gC44AI
Crazy is holding on to anger and resentment that only hurts you. bit.ly/1gC44AI
Merry Christmas from the Purity Project! May you have a blessed day!
The pain of the past can be a guideline for lessons you need to learn.
Crazy is living one way at home and another away from home. bit.ly/1gC44AI
We honor our parents by not committing the same mistakes they did.
Crazy is thinking your lies won’t ever catch-up to you. bit.ly/1gC44AI
With effort, what happened yesterday doesn’t have to continue today!
Crazy is giving less than your best to your job. bit.ly/1gC44AI
No matter what happened in the past, you can have a new start.
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective. James 5:16 (New International Version)
When caught in the grip of a sexual compulsion, one of the most frightening things we can think of is telling someone about our problem. We worry about the consequences. Some worry about losing their jobs, their marriages, their credibility, and their standing. We fear condemnation and judgment, most likely because we have been judging and condemning ourselves for a very long time. If we cannot accept ourselves, we are fairly certain that others will reject us too. We know that once the “cat is out of the bag” that there can be no turning back–that something will have to be done. Once we have the courage to admit to ourselves that we have a “problem” the next most difficult step is to actually is to confess to an appropriate person the things we have been doing. Continue reading
Whether it’s cards, sports or life, a point will come when we realize that we’ve stopped winning and that the only choice ahead of us is to choose how to we will lose. No one likes to lose at life; but once an addiction takes full hold on us, our only choice is to decide if we want to lose by Going Down in Flames or become a Wise Loser. Continue reading
I was convinced that porn was a bad thing in my life and I was ready and willing to stop. The problem was, I couldn’t stay stopped!
When I first begin to see the damage that was happening in my life due to my involvement with porn, I knew that I had to quit right away. I was convinced that porn was a bad thing in my life and I was ready and willing to stop. The problem was, I couldn’t stay stopped! To those who don’t have a porn problem it is hard to understand why someone can’t just stop what they are doing. It doesn’t make rational sense! I was once like them. I thought that once someone made up their mind to quit that they’d stop just like that. So, I made up my mind to quit “just like that” and it worked for a short period of time and then, to my dismay, I would fall away once more and become more involved with porn than ever before. I did this yo-yo thing for a number of years. It never worked. Each time I failed I became more miserable and frustrated with myself. What I have learned is that becoming free of porn is a tricky process that takes some time. I wish it could happen by resolve alone; but, I have learned that it doesn’t work like that. While there are many things that help one get porn out of their life, there is one thing that absolutely must be in place.
I think we all know that we act out on our sexual compulsions because we have an addiction; but, there are four main layers to our addiction and sublayers underneath them. The four layers of our addiction are: psychological, emotional, physical and spiritual. If we try and self-treat our addiction we will find that it is more complex and complicated that we realized and our chances for success are very limited. Even if we do seek help, if we don’t seek to understand and treat all four layers of the addiction, we won’t succeed. Our lack of understanding of these layers is one of the reasons that most addicts have tried and failed so many times. Every addict I have known had quit a million times only to start back up another million times. Quitting was not the problem; staying stopped was. The purpose of this article is to overview each of these four layers.
Is porn really all that bad?
Is there anything about porn that would make us want to recommend it to others? I spent fifteen years of my life looking at porn in an almost unrestrained fashion. I did what I wanted when I wanted–provided I could sneak around and do it without being caught. If the time I spent with porn had been channeled into formal learning, I suppose I could have learned at least 27 languages and 5 doctorate degrees! I obviously have knowledge and experience on this subject. In the next few paragraphs I’m going to tell you what I thought was positive about porn at the time; and, I’ll tell you what I think about it today–now I’ve had a chance to get it out of my life and think about what was happening to me back then. Continue reading
You may not be able to help the first look, but the second look is always a choice!”
No matter where we are or where we go there will be someone or something that catches our eye. It is so easy to become triggered. Without even knowing it, we find ourselves caught up in an anonymous person that catches our eye. We start taking that long look or a second, third, or fourth look! This can all happen without us consciously realizing that we are doing it. It happens fast. We see someone or something, physically take it in, give our attention to it, begin our sexual fantasy thinking, and then we hold on to these enjoyable until at some convenient point we are able to act out. This cycle of events is just one of many that we sexual addicts utilize on a regular basis. An important step to freedom is to learn how to stop feeding ourselves the stimuli that will start the cycle of our addiction. Bouncing our eyes is one of the first steps we must master if we are to begin the freedom towards freedom. Continue reading