Are you addicted to porn?
Here is a small test that you can take to gauge whether or not you have a problem with pornography. Read more
How to Start Healing from Porn
ADMIT THAT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM
One of the hardest things for any of us to do is to admit that we actually have a problem, at least, I know it was difficult for me. My marriage was falling apart; I was looking at porn multiple times a day–sometimes for as long as four to six hours; I was staying up late at night and not getting enough sleep; I was constantly paranoid that someone would discover my problem; I was hiding tapes, files DVDs and magazines and lying about how I was spending my time–all the while feeling tremendous guilt and shame. Yet, in my mind, “I wasn’t sure that I had a problem.” That’s the power of denial. Read more
Rethinking the Big ‘M
First let me say that I can’t believe that I’m writing this essay. It reminds me of something that I probably should have done when I was a young boy or teenager. But, since I didn’t do it back then, I suppose it is better late than never to reflect on matters of purity and holiness as it relates to how I behave sexually.
When we were given the assignment to write on the topic, Why Masturbation is Wrong, I was surprised to discover that a part of me was still asking the question, IF in fact masturbation is wrong. I certainly know the answer I am supposed to give; but, I’m not sure I had come to solid reasons of my own for avoiding this practice other than it has proven successful for me with sex and love addictions. Read more
405-625-3513–Your Number for Freedom!
405-625-3513 We hope you’ll remember this toll free number. It’s the number to call when you decide that you are serious about doing something about your porn habit or seeking help for your sexual addiction. If you’ve become something you don’t like–it’s time to do something about it by calling this number! Read more
Are you trying to hold a life raft under water?
When you have a secret in your life, it takes more energy than you might think to hide it. Someone once described it to me like trying to hold a life raft under water. Imagine the energy it would take to do that! We only have so much energy in our lives. We can either use our energy in positive ways or we can use it negatively. One of the negative, and most draining, ways we can use our energy is to maintain a double life. One of the first questions that Sexaholics Anonymous asks is: Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life? It only makes sense that it takes twice the energy to live a double life. To live this way we’ll spend great amounts of our personal power to maintain secrecy and hide things from ourselves and others. This drains us of the power that we need to solve our problems and live happy lives. The energy we spend to hide the negativity in our lives comes at a great cost. Are you you using your energies to keep up a double life of secrecy about your use of pornography or other improper sexual behaviors? Read more
Coming to Oklahoma City
Everybody is welcome to come. You’ll meet group leaders and hear from Brian Duncan, co-founder of the Purity Project.
This post was written by teach4him--a member of the Purity Project in Oklahoma City. If you have questions or comments of a personal nature, you may reach him at teach4him@purityproject.com
Anger and Rage
Once upon a time there was a man working in the fields who was suddenly bitten by a poisonous snake. Rather than calling out for help, the man became very angry and started chasing after the snake so that he might kill it. In his rage and physical exertion his heart began beating so quickly that it pushed the poison even deeper into his body. Rage kills! Read more
